ThinkingChild

I will be at the Collingswood Book Fair next week on Saturday, October 7 from l0AM to 4PM Haddon Avenue in Collingswood, New Jersey (near the Collingswood Library at 771 Haddon Avenue). I hope you can attend and hope to see you there. Myrna Shure

Talking about back to school on WI public radio with Tenley Koehler.

"Unlike the advice of so many 'parenting experts,' the effectiveness of Dr. Shure's work has been scientifically validated. If you want to prepare your child to become a happy, successful, functional adult, this book is a must." ~ Sam Goldstein, Ph.D., coauthor of Raising Resilient Children

How do you handle your pre-teen who stays out too late?

"Let her know she doesn't have to be perfect. Any pressure to 'be good,' 'to win' or to practice every day no matter what may have the opposite effect of what you want for your child - just to feel good inside. One 12-year-old I know was very jealous of her younger brother, a talented actor. She discovered pottery and now beams when her creative juices flow. She's not preparing for ""first in show"". More importantly, her pottery paved the way for her to meet new kids, and now she's made some new friends. This girl found her own niche. And instead of feeling jealous, she's feeling very good about who she is."

Thinking Parent, Thinking Child: Turning Everyday Problems into Solutions, Second Edition. In this new edition, internationally acclaimed author Dr. Myrna B. Shure shows how to apply I Can Problem Solve techniques to the top concerns of parents and children from preschoolers through preteens. With updated research, three completely new chapters, and numerous new problem-solving scenarios, the book offers a sensible way for parents to help their children learn how to think, not what to think.

Do you have a child who excels at something, is perhaps academically gifted, a star athlete or a brilliant musician? Do you have another child who does not excel, enjoys fewer accolades and may feel jealous or left out at school? Here are some ways to help a less-gifted child feel special too.... Encourage him to choose a different hobby he can enjoy - playing a musical instrument, art, a sport, or becoming immersed in a unique science project.

Does your child hang out with kids you don't like?

"Encourage your daughter to have a small group of friends over to your home, giving you a chance to meet him without his being singled out. If you do decide your daughter is not yet ready to relate to this boy, ask her to think about why you may feel the way you do. Simple forbidding her to talk to or see him will only make him seem all the more attractive.... If your preteen daughter can feel safe talking with your about these matter now, your line of communication may stay open as she approaches those more tumultuous teenage years."

You've tried everything you you can think of, but nothing you do seems to have any effect on your child's chronic procrastinating. The school called again to complain that your daughter is still bullying the other kids in her class, and you don't know how to make her stop without becoming a bully yourself. Your son explodes in anger if he loses at anything -- sports or even fun family games. And your kids constantly argue with each other and with you. If you're looking for a different way to handle problems like these, this book is for you. Written by internationally acclaimed parenting author Dr. Myrna Shure, Thinking Parent, Thinking Child arms you with powerful techniques for dealing with these and dozens of other issues confronting today's parents.

Your daughter's now 12 and starting to talk to boys. And you're concerned because she's talking to one particular boy - a lot - on the phone. He's two years older - and you don't know him. If you restrict her entirely, she'll talk to him on the sly. If you give her free rein, you worry about what they're saying - and where it might lead.... Let your daughter know you care how she thinks and feels about the boy. By doing this, you'll learn more about him than by asking her more direct questions.

Six myths about twins. (An article from www.justmommies.com.)