New Wilmington Psychotherapy & Counseling LLC

People want to be heard. They want to be understood. They don’t want to be a sounding board for someone else’s ego, or greatness.

If you have few happy childhood memories, your childhood was probably not that happy.

The ego has a flare for the dramatics. For worst case scenarios. For creating narratives around who we want people to be, rather than who they objectively are. ...When people leave our lives, the ego becomes the most triggered. Because it’s the most afraid. Because people leaving brings up our original childhood attachment trauma. And with that attachment trauma comes the egos core beliefs: I am not lovable, people always leave me, something is wrong/not good enough These core beliefs make our ego desperate to be chosen. We can’t actually see the other person we see what we wish them to be based on our past lived experiences. Our deepest desire is that they can rescue us from our pain. It’s that desire that can keep us so focused on the version of them we’ve created. Our work is to honor our inner child. The child who’s not been seen, heard, or able to express. Our work is to validate how painful it is for someone to leave AND to witness the stories our ego creates many (most ) of which are not even true #selfhealers

We have far more impact on our own mental wellness than we’ve been told. Every day, we can make choices to create who we want to become. Some ways to begin crea...te mental wellness: - Place boundaries, honor your limits, say no to things that cause resentment - Keep one small promise to yourself every day - Practice meditation + deep belly breathing - Use: the future self journal (linked in bio) - Move your body every day in whatever way feels best for you - Connect with like minded people/create community - Address your gut health/mircobiome - Become aware of unresolved trauma + the behavior/patterns it’s created in your adult life - Honor the inner child: create, play, do something just for you - Practice ego work: become aware of your ego + the stories it creates around your life experience that keep you repeating your familiar past Remember, the brain can change throughout life. New neural pathways can be created with consistent practice. Our genes are not fixed, they’re responding to the environment around us. The body/nervous system can heal. How do you create mental wellness? #selfhealers

And that’s why it’s called toxic narcissistic abuse.

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